Wednesday, September 9, 2009

I'm a SAHM

"They number in the millions and they are incredibly important to families and to our society, yet they are underappreciated, little respected, and controversial."

It is now time for my book recommendation. My husband bought me this book for my birthday and I have enjoyed it immensly. I think I might even read it again! There have been times that I have struggled wondering if Rylen was getting the "socialization" he needed at home and not in a MDO program or preschool. I have even wondered if I was doing the right thing to homeschool him. If you look around us, everyone is sending there kids away to school. From 6 weeks old, our society accepts putting a child in someone else's care. There is guilt either for doing it or for not doing it. We have also become dependant on two incomes and find it hard to revert to one even though childcare may take most of the second income. I do have the fortunate ability to work from home, which is not easy and at times wonder if a better option would be to totally focus on my family. Whatever your status of motherhood, I challenge you to read "In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms" by Laura Schlessinger.

I wasn't sure what the book would contain. At first I thought it would show how easy being a stay at home mom should be and just dote on the joys, but interestingly it discussed exactly how hard it is. The challenge of being at home and caring for the family is not an easy task but a very rewarding one. I was surprise to find that this noble task is not only for my children but also for my marriage.

I'd love to hear your comments about the book, favorite quotes, etc.!


Anonymous said...

so is she a complete advocate of staying home and no mdo's ever? I am just curious...

RK&RJ said...

I would say that ends up being a personal preference and what you decide to do in your own family situation.

Let me quote a part of the book..."I would never dream of telling a woman what she should do to make her life fulfilling, exciting, and purposeful. There are, of course, many ways to achieve personal satisfaction. I would never dream of telling a woman that she is needed more by her family than anywhere else on the planet, because I wouldn't want her to suffer any guilt or sense of loss if she chose to be in a full-time career. I would never dream of telling a woman that the special sweetness and nurturance that only a woman can bring to a home might bring her a depth of joy and peace that she never imagined, because that might seem offensive to those women who don't-and I certainly don't wish to offend anybody. No, I am not here to condemn anyone for anything; I am here only to let you know of the lives of families with at-home moms. I hope you will be touched, tickled, moved and certainly entertained by what follows."

The book is encouraging and any stay at home mom in any way can relate to the stories and what she writes. I still work from home, and have thought about a MDO at least for one day. So, I would just encourage you to take a look at the book.

Mrs TD said...

Thanks Kimberly! I will have to look into that book. There are some days when I just need to know that I am not the only one out there struggling with my decisions! Your recommendation came at the perfect time for me!

Wendy said...

I saw your recommendation on FB and the book is ready for me to pick up at the library today! Being a SAHM has always been a priority for me, but that doesn't mean it has been easy. There is no right mold for Moms, but it certainly helps to be encouraged and to feel supported and confident in the decisions our families have made. You are making me think again today how much fun a playgroup would be with our friends from Houston. Instead, we will be heading to the zoo here in MN before it gets too cold to see the animals outside! We'll be stopping at the library on the way home.

The Schneiders said...

Hi Kimberly,
I think I'll have to check out that book. I think there is no one "right" choice for all women and in fact, the "right" choice for your family today may change next month or next year. I think the important thing is making the family a priority.

When my oldest was a baby I worked parttime and he went to a MDO. When I was preg. with my second I worked full time and my oldest went to a babysitter's home. This is when I realized I didn't want to be a "working" mom. For the next few years I did direct sales from the house - looking back, I have some regrets about that one. For the last 10 years or so, I've been a homeschooling mom and that has been my focus. However, now that my children are getting older, I'm able to do some custom sewing for others and we are toying with the idea of opening an etsy shop. Again, we're trying to evaluate what is best for the family not just for the individuals.

Have a great weekend!!